There are effective ways to go about asking for coffee that make people more likely to meet with you:
1. Intro context: Give the reader context of who you are and how you found them. It’s always beneficial if the context of how you “found” them demonstrates support, eg. reading their blog.
2. Specific context why you’re reaching out: Asking for someone’s time without indicating why doesn’t make anyone want to help you. When you specify why you want to get together provides context on how you can help them, signals that you’re not out just to take someone’s time, gives them the option to help via phone or email.
3. Recognition that they’re giving you their time: When you signal to them that you acknowledge their time is very limited and valuable, they appreciate it. It indicates that you recognize they’re giving something up and that you’re likely to grateful if they did.
4. Limited time commitment: “I would be very grateful for 20 minutes”. Establishing a limited commitment makes people more likely to meet with you. Everyone has 15-20 minutes to give.
5. Make it convenient: “I’m happy to meet you at the most convenient location/time for you.”
6. Signal that you’re going to provide value: The best way to get someone to make time for you is to demonstrate that you can add value to their life.